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Monday, 10 November 2008

The Story of Four Wives

There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men.


He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.

Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.

The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart. The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.

Then a voice called out : "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have !"



Moral :

Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives


A. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.

B. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

C. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

D. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure.

Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament



Sunday, 25 May 2008

Some Great Leadership Quotes

Adlai Stevenson:

It's hard to lead a cavalry charge if you think you look funny on a horse.

Albert Einstein:

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence.

Carl Sagan:

But the fact that some geniuses were laughed at does not imply that all who are laughed at are geniuses. They laughed at Columbus, they laughed at Fulton, they laughed at the Wright brothers. But they also laughed at Bozo the Clown.

Dwight D. Eisenhower:

You do not lead by hitting people over the head - that's assault, not leadership.

Edwin H. Friedman:

Leadership can be thought of as a capacity to define oneself to others in a way that clarifies and expands a vision of the future.

Elizabeth Dole:

What you always do before you make a decision is consult. The best public policy is made when you are listening to people who are going to be impacted. Then, once policy is determined, you call on them to help you sell it.

Eric Hoffer:

In times of change, learners inherit the Earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.

Ernest Becker:

It is not so much that man is a herd animal, said Freud, but that he is a horde animal led by a chief.

Eugene V. Debs:

I never had much faith in leaders. I am willing to be charged with almost anything, rather than to be charged with being a leader. I am suspicious of leaders, and especially of the intellectual variety. Give me the rank and file every day in the week. If you go to the city of Washington, and you examine the pages of the Congressional Directory, you will find that almost all of those corporation lawyers and cowardly politicians, members of Congress, and mis-representatives of the masses -- you will find that almost all of them claim, in glowing terms, that they have risen from the ranks to places of eminence and distinction. I am very glad I cannot make that claim for myself. I would be ashamed to admit that I had risen from the ranks. When I rise it will be with the ranks, and not from the ranks.

Everett Dirksen:

I am a man of fixed and unbending principles, the first of which is to be flexible at all times.

Faye Wattleton:

The only safe ship in a storm is leadership.

Faye Wattleton:

Whoever is providing leadership needs to be as fresh and thoughtful and reflective as possible to make the very best fight.

H. Ross Perot:

Inventories can be managed, but people must be led.

Henrik Ibsen:

A community is like a ship; everyone ought to be prepared to take the helm.

Herbert B. Swope:

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody.

Isaac Newton:

If I have seen farther than others, it is because I was standing on the shoulder of giants.

James Callaghan:

A leader must have the courage to act against an expert's advice.

James Kouzes and Barry Posner:

There's nothing more demoralizing than a leader who can't clearly articulate why we're doing what we're doing.

James Kouzes and Barry Posner:

[Y]ou must unite your constituents around a common cause and connect with them as human beings.

Jesse Jackson:

Time is neutral and does not change things. With courage and initiative, leaders change things.

John Gardner:

Pity the leader caught between unloving critics and uncritical lovers.

John Gardner:

Most important, leaders can conceive and articulate goals that lift people out of their petty preoccupations and unite them in pursuit of objectives worthy of their best efforts.

John Quincy Adams:

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

Kenneth Blanchard:

The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.

Margaret Chase Smith:

Leadership is not manifested by coercion, even against the resented. Greatness is not manifested by unlimited pragmatism, which places such a high premium on the end justifying any means and any measures.

Margaret J. Wheatley:

When leaders take back power, when they act as heroes and saviors, they end up exhausted, overwhelmed, and deeply stressed.

Mohandas Gandhi:

I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.

Noam Chomsky:

It is the responsibility of intellectuals to speak the truth and expose lies.

Peter Drucker:

What is the managers job? It is to direct the resources and the efforts of the business toward opportunities for economically significant results. This sounds trite -- and it is. But every analysis of actual allocation of resources and efforts in business that I have ever seen or made showed clearly that the bulk of time, work, attention, and money first goes to problems rather than to opportunities, and, secondly, to areas where even extraordinarily successful performance will have minimal impact on results. The leaders who work most effectively, it seems to me, never say "I." And that's not because they have trained themselves not to say "I." They don't think "I." They think "we"; they think "team." They understand their job to be to make the team function. They accept responsibility and don't sidestep it, but "we" gets the credit. This is what creates trust, what enables you to get the task done.

Peter F. Drucker:

Leaders shouldn't attach moral significance to their ideas: Do that, and you can't compromise.

Peter Senge:

Systems thinking is a discipline for seeing wholes. It is a framework for seeing interrelationships rather than things, for seeing patterns of change rather than static "snapshots." It is a set of general principles -- distilled over the course of the twentieth century, spanning fields as diverse as the physical and social sciences, engineering, and management.... During the last thirty years, these tools have been applied to understand a wide range of corporate, urban, regional, economic, political, ecological, and even psychological systems. And systems thinking is a sensibility -- for the subtle interconnectedness that gives living systems their unique character.

Ralph Nader:

I start with the premise that the function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.

Robert Coles:

Abraham Lincoln did not go to Gettysburg having commissioned a poll to find out what would sell in Gettysburg. There were no people with percentages for him, cautioning him about this group or that group or what they found in exit polls a year earlier. When will we have the courage of Lincoln?

Robert Greenleaf:

Good leaders must first become good servants.

Robert Louis Stevenson:

Keep your fears to yourself, but share your inspiration with others.

Rosabeth Moss Kantor:

Leaders are more powerful role models when they learn than when they teach.

Rosabeth Moss Kantor:

Leaders are more powerful role models when they learn than when they teach.

Rosalynn Carter:

A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don't necessarily want to go, but ought to be.

Rosalynn Carter:

A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don't necessarily want to go but ought to be.

Stephen Covey:

Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.

Susan B. Anthony:

Cautious, careful people, always casting about to preserve their reputation and social standing, never can bring about a reform. Those who are really in earnest must be willing to be anything or nothing in the world's estimation, and publicly and privately, in season and out, avow their sympathy with despised and persecuted ideas and their advocates, and bear the consequences.

Theodore Hesburgh:

The very essence of leadership is that you have to have a vision.

Tom Peters:

If you're not confused, you're not paying attention.

Tony Blair:

The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is very easy to say yes.

Unknown:

Some leaders are born women.

Vince Lombardi:

Leaders aren't born they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that's the price we'll have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal.

Walter Lippman:

The final test of a leader is that he leaves behind him in other men the conviction and the will to carry on.

Warren Bennis:

The manager asks how and when; the leader asks what and why.

Warren G. Bennis:

The most dangerous leadership myth is that leaders are born -- that there is a genetic factor to leadership. This myth asserts that people simply either have certain charismatic qualities or not. That's nonsense; in fact, the opposite is true. Leaders are made rather than born.

Winston Churchill:

The price of greatness is responsibility.

Marine Corps Leadership Secrets Part VI

Know Your Team and Look Out For Them

As team lead, you need to know what the strengths and weaknesses of each team member are. For example, if one person is strong on writing backends and another is strong on UI, assign them to tasks that play to their strengths. If you need to cross-train members, put a strong member with a weaker member. The better you know your team, the more effective they will be. Likewise, if you don’t know or ignore team members capabilities and preferences, you will soon run into difficulty. Use your judgement to make the right choices for you, your team, and your organization.

Also, watch out for your team’s welfare. If a project sponsor insists on your team developing a 12 month project in 6 months, have the moral courage to stand up to them. Don’t just roll over and let your team suffer under an unrealistic schedule.

Keep Your Team Informed

In the Marines and Navy, scuttlebutt was originally the term for a cask of water. Of course, as men drew water they talked and thus the term came to mean exchanging rumors and gossip. The ‘water cooler’ rumor mill is strong in some organizations. As a team lead, it is your job to make sure that you keep your team well informed about your organization and that they aren’t depending on rumors. Playing “I’ve got a secret” with your team is a sure way to damage morale. Have the integrity and dependability to keep your team correctly informed.

Certainly, there will be times you have confidential information. In those cases, show your loyalty to your organization by keeping it secret. However, you should also look out for your team in this case, particularly if the news is bad.

Set Goals You Can Reach

How many team leads have gotten into trouble by agreeing to schedules that they couldn’t keep? A lot, I would wager. It is your job to only accept work that your team can accomplish within the time frame given. Read up on project estimation and negotiation tactics to help protect your team from futile death marches. Your team may be good but don’t ask the impossible from them. Likewise, giving little make-work assignments one after another to a team of crack developers will frustrate them. Set the right goals for your team.

Make Sound and Timely Decisions

Knowledge and judgement are needed to make a sound decision while initiative is needed to make it a timely one. If you’ve made a bad choice, have the courage to change it before more damage is done. While you should avoid changing your mind frequently, sticking with a failing plan or development tool decision will only bring more trouble upon you and your team. Part of making good decisions is knowing when to make a change and when to stick with it despite the odds.

Know Your Job

Honestly, if you don’t know programming well you really don’t need to have a team lead job. This should go without saying but many organizations promote faces and personality over technical skills. As a technical team lead or IT manager it is your job to stay informed on the latest trends. You don’t want to be the kind of manager who says something like, “Oh, Ajax, I clean my kitchen with that” or “Orcas? Yeah, I saw one of those at Sea World.” Instead, you want to be in the know on all the latest trends.

If you don’t know, then have the courage to admit it. Don’t try to fake it in a ‘pointy haired boss’ fashion. Instead, learn from your team when you can. This not only improves your knowledge but improves the morale of the team too.

Teamwork

Encouraging teamwork seems like a no-brainer, doesn’t it? However, I’ve seen a number of teams fail because of interpersonal problems, cliquish behaviors, backstabbing, work hogging or avoidance and other such problems. Make sure that the people on your team are getting along. If they aren’t, find ways to help them deal with each other and, as a last resort, find a way to restructure your team. Ignoring these kinds of personal problems will only make things worse for your team. If you find one member is hogging all the work or avoiding taking on work, make an effort to better distribute the work. Whatever you do, don’t entertain gossip about a team member from another team member. This is a major morale killer.

Also, try to schedule social time together for the team. This might be as simple as lunch or drinks after work as a team once a week or so or something more elaborate on a less frequent basis. Be careful not to exclude some team members from these activities and try your best to schedule them in such a way that everyone can attend easily. While people may not show it, being ‘disinvited’ from such gatherings can be quite a morale killer

Marine Corps Leadership Secrets Part I

The United States Marine Corps prides itself on many things. One of these is the leadership training it provides to its NCO’s (non-commissioned officers) and commissioned officers. As a software development team lead, what can you borrow from their training to use in your daily activities? How might life and death battlefield leadership methods be of use in a corporate environment? In this series of articles I’ll be discussing the USMC’s leadership traits and principles that I was taught many years ago and how to apply them to your team leadership position.

Integrity

In this context, integrity means honesty, that you mean what you say and that members of your team know that about you. If you lie to them, they will discover it and they won’t trust you at your word again. When you’re talking to your team let them know if you’re giving them a fact or your opinion. Don’t make them guess about it. Also bear in mind that even off-hand statements may be taken as fact by your team so use care in what you say about sensitive topics.

There may be times when you have information you aren’t allowed to pass on to the team. Part of your integrity is keeping confidential things confidential. If you run into a situation like this where team members are asking for information you aren’t allowed to pass on, tactfully decline to answer the question.

Likewise, also show integrity in your dealings with managers above you. Don’t lie to them, because, once again, the lie will come out. Give them the straight facts as you know them and ask for the same from them.

What you should strive for is to be known as a person of their word, someone who can be trusted by both those above and below you within the organization.

Knowledge

Part of your job is to know the tools you’re using. In whatever language you’re developing in, you should not only know it well but you should also know where to find answers to the questions you don’t know. You should be a mentor to the junior members of your team and guide them into best practices and techniques. If you don’t know an answer, admit it and then find it out. Don’t try to bluff your way through. Your team will spot it and this will damage your respect and authority within the team.

Also, knowledge also applies to knowledge of your team. You should know the strengths and weaknesses of each team member. If you don’t know this you will run into problems. People aren’t cogs that you can stick just anywhere and get the best performance. Know how to get the best performance out of each team member.

Courage

While it is unlikely that you would have to demonstrate physical courage in your normal corporate environment, you will probably have multiple opportunities to exhibit moral courage. By moral courage, I mean knowing what is right and standing up for it.

Often this may mean standing up for yourself or a subordinate in a tough situation. For example, if your boss is a office bully it may mean calling them on their antics. If your manager is doing something illegal or violating company policies, it may mean dealing with that in a proper way. If a human resources policy is misguided, it may mean challenging them on it. Standing up for what’s right might cost you your job but the alternative is often much worse.

Another aspect of moral courage is having the courage to admit you were wrong not only to your team but to your management as well. Everybody makes mistakes from time to time. The trick is to not keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Instead, learn from your mistakes. It also means having the courage not to pass the buck or blame your team for the failure. A good team leader fixes the problem, they don’t fix the blame.


On Leadership - Excellent Article from the net

7 Secrets of Leadership Success

From Paul B. Thornton

Part 1: Top Business Leaders Share Their Best Business Success Advice

Fortune magazine once published an article entitled “The Best Advice I Ever Got.” It was a great article that offered wit and wisdom about achieving business success. I liked it so much, that it motivated me to produce my newest book, Leadership: Best Advice I Ever Got, which describes the best leadership advice 136 successful CEOs, coaches, consultants, professors, managers, executives, presidents, politicians, and religious leaders received that most helped them become effective and successful leaders.

Here are seven secrets to leadership success:

1. Leadership is about making things happen.

If you want to make something happen with your life – in school, in your profession or in your community, do it. Perceived obstacles crumble against persistent desire. John Baldoni, Author, Leadership Communication Consultant and Founder of Baldoni Consulting LLC, shared this advice that had come from his father, a physician. He taught him the value of persistence. At the same time, his mother taught him compassion for others. Therefore, persistence for your cause should not be gained at the expense of others. Another bit of leadership wisdom!

2. Listen and understand the issue, then lead.

Time and time again we have all been told, "God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason"... or as Stephen Covey said, "Seek to understand, rather than be understood." As a leader, listening first to the issue, then trying to coach, has been the most valuable advice that Cordia Harrington, President and CEO of Tennessee Bun Company has been given.

3. Answer the three questions everyone within your organization wants answers to.

What the people of an organization want from their leader are answers to the following: Where are we going? How are we going to get there? What is my role? Kevin Nolan, President & Chief Executive Officer of Affinity Health Systems, Inc. believes the more clarity that can be added to each of the three questions, the better the result.

4. Master the goals that will allow you to work anywhere in today’s dynamic business world.

Debbe Kennedy, President, CEO and Founder of Global Dialogue Center and Leadership Solutions Companies, and author of Action Dialogues and Breakthrough once shared this piece of advice that was instrumental in shaping her direction, future and achievements.

She was a young manager at IBM just promoted to her first staff assignment in a regional marketing office. For reasons she can’t explain, one of her colleagues named Bookie called her into his office while she was visiting his location. He then began to offer unsolicited advice, but advice that now stays fresh in her mind. He mentioned that jobs, missions, titles and organizations would come and go as business is dynamic - meaning it is always changing. He advised her not to focus your goals toward any of these, but instead learn to master the skills that will allow you to work anywhere.

He was talking about four skills:

  • The ability to develop an idea;
  • Effectively plan for its implementation;
  • Execute second-to-none;
  • Achieve superior results time after time.

With this in mind, Kennedy advises readers to seek jobs and opportunities with this in mind. Forget what others do. Work to be known for delivering excellence. It speaks for itself and it opens doors.

More of the best leadership advice ever received by successful people, advice that helped them to become effective, successful leaders:

5. Be curious.

Curiosity is a prerequisite to continuous improvement and even excellence. The person who gave Mary Jean Thornton, Former Executive Vice President & CIO, The Travelers, this advice urged her to study people, processes, and structures. He inspired her to be intellectually curious. He often reminded Thornton that making progress, in part, was based upon thinking. She has learned to apply this notion of intellectual curiosity by thinking about her organization’s future, understanding the present, and knowing and challenging herself to creatively move the people and the organization closer to its vision.

6.

Listen to both sides of the argument.

The most valuable advice Brian P. Lees, Massachusetts State Senator and Senate Minority Leader, ever received came from his mentor, United States Senator Edward W. Brooke III. He told him to listen to all different kinds of people and ideas. Listening only to those who share your background and opinions can be imprudent. It is important to respect your neighbors’ rights to their own views. Listening to and talking with a variety of people, from professors to police officers, from senior citizens to school children, is essential not only to be a good leader in business, but to also be a valuable member within your community.

7. Prepare, prepare, prepare.

If you fail to prepare, you are preparing to fail. If one has truly prepared and something goes wrong the strength of the rest of what you've prepared for usually makes this something easier to handle without crisis and panic. One of the best pieces of advice Dave Hixson, Men’s Varsity Basketball Coach at Amherst College has ever received and continues to use and pass on is this anonymous quote -“Preparation is the science of winning."

Along with this are two expressions from Rick Pitino's book Success is a Choice, which speaks to preparation. Hixson asks his teams every year: "Do you deserve to win?" and "Have you done the work?" This speaks to the importance of preparation toward achieving your final goal. If you haven't done the work (the preparation) the answer to the second question is an easy "no!"

Great advice comes from many sources – parents, other relatives, consultants, bosses, co-workers, mentors, teachers, coaches, and friends. The important point to remember is to stay open, listen to everyone, but also develop your own leadership style.

Paul B. Thornton is President of Be the Leader Associates and author of seven books on management and leadership. His latest book, Leadership: Best Advice I Ever Got, is available at WingSpan Press, amazon.com, and bn.com.

from http://sbinfocanada.about.com/od/smallbusinesslearning/a/leadershippt.htm

Paul B. Thornton presents more of the best advice for achieving business success that seven top leaders ever received on the next page. Click to continue reading about effective leadership.

Wednesday, 16 January 2008

Preamble

Everyday I come across a number of 'ponderables' - in emails, on sites, in books, and in conversations. Through this blog, I will attempt to collect them in one place so that I, or anyone else who is interested, can access them easily from any place. I will also upload some of my collection of 'points to ponder' over a period of time.