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Showing posts with label thought provoking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label thought provoking. Show all posts

Tuesday, 10 February 2009

FW: Fw: [DB64] FW: When a Soldier Comes Home...must look at this one

WHEN A SOLDIER COMES HOME ...





When a soldier comes home, he finds it hard....

...to listen to his son whine about being bored.

....to keep a straight face when people complain about potholes.

to be tolerant of people who complain about the hassle of getting ready for work.

...to be understanding when a co-worker complains about a bad night's sleep.

..to be silent when people pray to God for a new car.

...to control his panic when his wife tells him he needs to drive slower.


..to be compassionate when a businessman expresses a fear of flying.


...to keep from laughing when anxious parents say they're afraid to send their kids off to summer camp.


...to keep from ridiculing someone who complains about hot weather.


...to control his frustration when a colleague gripes about his coffee being cold.


...to remain calm when his daughter complains about having to walk the dog.



...to be civil to people who complain about their jobs.


...to just walk away when someone says they only get two weeks of vacation a year.


...to be forgiving when someone says how hard it is t o have a new baby in the house.



The only thing harder than being a Soldier..


Is loving one.

Monday, 10 November 2008

The Story of Four Wives

There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men.


He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.

Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.

The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart. The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.

Then a voice called out : "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have !"



Moral :

Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives


A. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.

B. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

C. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

D. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure.

Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament



Thursday, 23 October 2008

FW: 40 Tips for Better Life

40 Tips for Better Life


1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. Sleep for at least 7 hours.

4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

5. Play more games.

6. Read more books than you did last year.

7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

11. Drink plenty of water.

12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his / her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

18. Smile and laugh more.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others'.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Forgive every one for every thing.

26. What other people think of you is none of your business.

27. GOD heals everything.

28. However good or bad a situation is -- it will change.

29. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Friends will. Stay in touch. . .

30. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

32. The best is yet to come.

33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

34. Do the right thing !

35. Call your family often.

36. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

37. Each day give something good to others.

38. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.

40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.


TAKE CARE...... LOVE YOURSELF.... ....

Sunday, 25 May 2008

Marine Corps Leadership Secrets Part I

The United States Marine Corps prides itself on many things. One of these is the leadership training it provides to its NCO’s (non-commissioned officers) and commissioned officers. As a software development team lead, what can you borrow from their training to use in your daily activities? How might life and death battlefield leadership methods be of use in a corporate environment? In this series of articles I’ll be discussing the USMC’s leadership traits and principles that I was taught many years ago and how to apply them to your team leadership position.

Integrity

In this context, integrity means honesty, that you mean what you say and that members of your team know that about you. If you lie to them, they will discover it and they won’t trust you at your word again. When you’re talking to your team let them know if you’re giving them a fact or your opinion. Don’t make them guess about it. Also bear in mind that even off-hand statements may be taken as fact by your team so use care in what you say about sensitive topics.

There may be times when you have information you aren’t allowed to pass on to the team. Part of your integrity is keeping confidential things confidential. If you run into a situation like this where team members are asking for information you aren’t allowed to pass on, tactfully decline to answer the question.

Likewise, also show integrity in your dealings with managers above you. Don’t lie to them, because, once again, the lie will come out. Give them the straight facts as you know them and ask for the same from them.

What you should strive for is to be known as a person of their word, someone who can be trusted by both those above and below you within the organization.

Knowledge

Part of your job is to know the tools you’re using. In whatever language you’re developing in, you should not only know it well but you should also know where to find answers to the questions you don’t know. You should be a mentor to the junior members of your team and guide them into best practices and techniques. If you don’t know an answer, admit it and then find it out. Don’t try to bluff your way through. Your team will spot it and this will damage your respect and authority within the team.

Also, knowledge also applies to knowledge of your team. You should know the strengths and weaknesses of each team member. If you don’t know this you will run into problems. People aren’t cogs that you can stick just anywhere and get the best performance. Know how to get the best performance out of each team member.

Courage

While it is unlikely that you would have to demonstrate physical courage in your normal corporate environment, you will probably have multiple opportunities to exhibit moral courage. By moral courage, I mean knowing what is right and standing up for it.

Often this may mean standing up for yourself or a subordinate in a tough situation. For example, if your boss is a office bully it may mean calling them on their antics. If your manager is doing something illegal or violating company policies, it may mean dealing with that in a proper way. If a human resources policy is misguided, it may mean challenging them on it. Standing up for what’s right might cost you your job but the alternative is often much worse.

Another aspect of moral courage is having the courage to admit you were wrong not only to your team but to your management as well. Everybody makes mistakes from time to time. The trick is to not keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Instead, learn from your mistakes. It also means having the courage not to pass the buck or blame your team for the failure. A good team leader fixes the problem, they don’t fix the blame.


Wednesday, 7 May 2008

Sail - don't drift


There is a world of a difference between a sailor and a drifter. A sailor is in control of the boat of his destiny. He has a destination or a goal in mind, and has a pretty good idea how to get there. A drifter, on the other hand, is - well, adrift. He knows not where is headed, and often, knows not the folly of this. A sailor has a map, a drifter prefers a nap. He is in a perpetual stupor, relishing his sleep while the going is good. But when the sea gets choppy and rough, he has no means of controlling his craft. It is then that he realizes that it is not always good to take the easy way out and let things drift along.