Memos From Your Child

 

 

 

 

Memos From Your Child

• Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for ... I'm only testing you.
• Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it .. it makes me feel more secure.
• Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk to me in private.
• Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
• Don't be too upset if I say "I hate you." It isn't that I hate you, but only that I need your attention.
• Don't protect me from consequence. I need to learn the hard way.
• Don't take too much notice of my small ailment. Sometimes they get me the attention I want.
• Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
• Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
• Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always accurate.
• Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
• Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you.
• Don't put me off when I ask you questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
• Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to try to understand.
• Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
• Don't ever think it beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm to you.
• Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please try.
• Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it.
• Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of love. But I don't need to tell you all the time, do I?

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views of an Officer's daughter

A very nice piece I received from one of the forces groups – thought it deserved to be forwarded. Unfortunately the lady’s email ID is not mentioned, or one could have congratulated her on her thoughts.

Rohit

 

 

 

 

 

 

Absolutely genuine views of an Officer's daughter!

It's very simple. A military coup, that is. One collective word
is all it needs to convert this nation from a democratic country to a
progressive economy with martial law. The armed forces will take over the
nation, and no one can do a thing about it. Not the police force, not
Manmohan Singh(=Sonia Gandhi), not A.K. Antony. No one. A movement will
arise so suddenly and with the fury of a raging tsunami, that it will
rewrite India's future, inject discipline in the blood of every Indian,
unscrew unopened bottles of potential and terrorise the intestines out of
those who dare to oppose them or irrigate the minds of others with vile
thoughts. Corruption will be eliminated 90% and progress will double..
Indeed, the souls of our forefathers who fought for real freedom, will rest
whole-heartily under this military control. Ironic, but true.

The question here is, why won't they do it?

Let me tell you what bothers me. I am the 19 year old daughter of a retired
government servant, an army officer to be specific (note the 'Servant'..
absolutely true in case of the armed forces)

My father, who retired as a Colonel, is not a receiver of the PVSM, AVSM,
VSM, or even the VC for that matter. He was a part of the army, served an
ordinary Colonel's role, did not jump in front of a bullet to save his men,
or plan an intelligent strategy to capture some enemy territory. He was a
part of both major wars with Pakistan and China, returned without being a
decorated war hero, served in regiments in both borders, saw extreme weather
conditions and backward technology and most importantly, he enjoyed and took
immense pride in doing all this and serving the nation.

Yet, I feel my father is a greater man than many 'greats' in this nation.
Shahrukh Khan, or Pratibha Patil,to begin with:neither of them have
sacrificed more than a sleepless night or compromised on their Saturday
morning sleep for the nation.

I don't blame you for saying, 'Oh, she's an army officer's daughter,
obviously that's why she's biased'. I don't deny it. It is true. I am
biased. And I want every single person in this country, if not the world to
be biased. I can only tell you what it is like to have seen these people up,
close and personal, to have heard true incidents of bravery and selflessness
and then know they're are being paid peanuts, to sacrifice their lives
without hesitation for the nation.

When I was 16, my family took a holiday to Arunachal Pradesh, to the
regiment where my father had been in command, more than 20 years ago. From a
scenic , quaint little town called Tenga, on the banks of a gushing river,
we travelled to a snow desert near the Chinese border called Bumla. Here, in
the middle of nowhere, one could see a small board stuck in the ice reading
'Welcome to India'. For as far as our eyes could see in all four directions,
there was nothing but snow. Beside that board stood a guard, probably of
south Indian origin, in 6 layers of clothing, a giant wind-cheater and the
heaviest pair of snow-boots imaginable, against constant rapid winds,
endless lengths and immense depths of ice, pacing an abandoned minefield
from the 1962 war, looking through a telescope at Chinese vantage points to
track enemy positions and moves.

He didn't opt to be there, but when he chose the forces as a career he knew
what he would be facing, and he faces it with valour, for he has the
patriotism that you and I and many of our politicians lack. Tomorrow he may
die in battle, but I know for sure, that no one who has joined the forces
will ever regret taking up that profession. If he dies in an act of bravery,
he will most probably be awarded a VC or PVC medal for the same,
posthumously. Then the government might give his family a lump sum and/or a
measly monthly stipend of Rs.850 to Rs.1500. I ask you, is that all this
man's life is worth?

What about a serving soldier? He mostly hails from small areas or rural
backgrounds with an uneducated wife and 2 children back in his village
alone.Typical, but true. This man, who has time in the forward areas only to
eat, sleep and watch the enemy, hardly sees his family. His entire salary is
sent back home to his spouse, who faces the brunt of yet again uneducated
parents-in-law ready to blame her for anything that happens to their son. In
such a situation, a soldier's wife receiving the pitiful salary of her
husband will be left an orphan in the middle of the road, simply for the
lack of money.

Then, these war heroes, and martyrs are forgotten within minutes, no, wait,
seconds of their death. No one forgets to come for the Republic Day parade
,or to place that wreath they didn't order on the grave of some memorial
they don't know was built for what on Independence day. Just because it is
protocol. Protocol to 'remember' (or forget?) these people on these 'days'
meant for our nation, to 'remember' them for the 30 seconds it takes you to
read patriotic forwards and messages in your in boxes on email and on your
cellphone.

Like a 90-year old war veteran said, I guess it's the forces who are to be
blamed. Right from the 3rd pay commission-who screwed up royally- the three
forces have always put the pride of serving the nation over money. I guess
it's their fault they didn't demand it then.

My father and I have been discussing this issue for a while now, and my
blood boils, every single time I see our so-called Defence minister
Mr.A.K.Antony defending his stupidity on a podium which he does not deserve.
Have you for a minute stopped and thought about why you at home are able to
enjoy your evening spent listening to your iPod, or watching a DVD on your
42-inch LCD? It is because you live in India, where the borders, threatened
by invasion every second, are guarded constantly, by the watchful eyes of
some 27-year old son of a mother who sits far away in a remote town, praying
consciously every second for the safety of her son. If that guard decided to
look away for even a minute, he would be dead, within seconds, and there
would be an invasion leading to chaos everywhere. Soon, India would become a
replicate Iraq, pandemonium prevailing,where you would need the permission
of your invaders to even use the toilet, which under normal circumstances
would be your birthright.

Sometimes it's scary, how something so simple and routine is linked to
something so complex and out of hand. From all of you who saw these reports
of the military's peaceful war against the government on television, some of
you changed the channel since it didn't concern you, some saw the report and
took it in as general knowledge, and some burnt rage over it for a few
seconds. Those whose blood still boils, would be the ones who have actually
some patriotism left in their blood.

Am I being too philosophical for a nineteen year old? Most of you might say
yes, but I say, why not? You would too, if you saw the fire in the eyes of
these people the way I do.

And what is it, with Mr.Antony's comment on discipline? I'm sorry Mr.Antony,
but you politicians, who hit each other with chappals, and microphones, use
unparliamentary language in the parliament, come half an hour late to a
meeting, and do not know the words of the national anthem, are talking about
discipline.Please, don't make me laugh.Or with the panel that is enquiring
the pay commission having IAS officers in it!? Why don't we have a separate
pay commission for the Military like most other countries do? Why do we have
to put up with a cock-eyed system? Why does a DGP get paid almost twice as
much as his equivalent in the forces? Why does the army have to replace the
fire-brigade, police force and everyone else, when it is specifically
mentioned that the forces are only for training during peace and attack
during war. Why does the government involve the forces in flood relief ,
earthquake relief, tsunami relief, and more recently, rescuing of children
fallen in pits? Then to put the cherry on the icing, you pay them in a pay
scale adopted in 1948?

I have faced and will face a lot of criticism for my views.As some of my
friends say, we do get good rations, accommodation and cheaper FMCGs and
alcohol. Rations and accommodation -anyone in a decent government service
gets that. Cheaper FMCGs- The least the government can do is to remove the
taxes off the MRP of many products and make it available to the average
soldier, who in return is willing to pay the price of his life for his
nation. Cheap alcohol- yes, a bottle of rum is relatively cheaper. Why don't
you spend one year of your life to replace a soldier in snowy altitudes, in
nothing but a tent or in the blistering heat of the Thar with the only wind
bringing sandstorms along with it or in the jungles of Nagaland with the
leeches sucking your blood out and I'm sure ANY soldier you replace to give
him precious time with his family will gladly give you all the rum he can
ever get in his life, simply so you don't die of exhaustion and depression
and actually live to tell your tale.Simply, so you can survive.

Let me remind you (non)patriotic souls, that the life of a person in the
armed forces is one filled with dignity and pride, and I believe it should
reflect in how much s/he is paid, for glamour and corruption rule the roost
today, and that bias will take our country nowhere.

Hoping for the best to come for our brave men and women..

JAI HIND.
--
Vaishnavi Prasad

 

Rohit Agarwal

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! PaUNa-mad: PaUNa-imad\ma pUNa-at\ pUNaa-maud\cCyato .

pUNa-sya pUrmaaVa pUNa-maovaaiSaYyato .

Absolute perfection comes from the absolute.

 

That which is well built
will never be torn down.
That which is well latched
can not slip away.
Those who do things well
will be honored from generation to generation.

(Tao Te Ching)

 

 

Good but Tough to Practice

Too Good but Tough to Practice

 

1) Apologizing doesn't mean that (apologetic? ????)  You are wrong and the other is right.  It only means that you value the relationship more than your ego....

 

2) If everything is going according to your wish, then you are lucky...... If its not, then you are too lucky, because it is going according to Gods wish......

 

3) Ever noticed your parents spend the first 18 months trying to make you stand up and talk....and the next 18 years trying to make you sit down and listen?

 

4) Either walk as if you rule the world.... or, Walk as if you don't mind who the hell rules the world...That' s the attitude...Rock your life....

 

5) Confidence never comes if we have all the answers, Be ready for all the questions... .Be bold to face the world....

 

6) When you are depressed... When you are confused.... When you have been hurt the most...Don't ever get carried away...rather just get in front of the mirror, and there you will find the right person who could actually help you get out of this....

 

7) There is always a little truth behind every "just kidding" A little knowledge behind every "I don't know" A little emotion behind "I don't care"

 

8) Two aspect of life: If we become too sentimental, it is too hard to lead life and if we become too practical, it is too tough to respect relations... ..

 

9) No on in this world is afraid to speak the truth.  They are afraid only about the consequences that are to be faced after speaking the truth.

 

10) Truth of life:  What is status??  "Spending money which we don't have to buy things which we don't need....To impress people whom we don't know..."

Great Sayings

Think out of the Box...For All kind of Employees

 

 

Every company has a performance appraisal system in place to measure the effectiveness of its employees. Employees are normally rated in most of the companies in the above categories. Apart from the above non performance category is also there, which is not depicted here ) . Needless to say everyone wants to be rated Outstanding. What is the yard stick and how do you measure these aspects? Employee "A" in a company walked up to his manager and asked what my job is for the day? The manager took "A" to the bank of a river and asked him to cross the river and reach the other side of the bank. "A" completed this task successfully and reported back to the manager about the completion of the task assigned. The manager smiled and said "GOOD JOB" Next day Employee "B" reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task as above to this person also. The Employee "B' before starting the task saw Employee "C" struggling in the river to reach the other side of the bank. He realized "C" has the same task. Now "B" not only crossed the river but also helped "C" to cross the river. "B" reported back to the manager and the manager smiled and said "VERY GOOD JOB" The following day Employee "Q" reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again. Employee "Q" before starting the work did some home work and realized "A", "B" & "C" all has done this task before. He met them and understood how they performed. He realized that there is a need for a guide and training for doing this task. He sat first and wrote down the procedure for crossing the river, he documented the common mistakes people made, and tricks to do the task efficiently and effortlessly. Using the methodology he had written down he crossed the river and reported back to the manager along with documented procedure and training material. The manger said "Q" you have done an "EXCELLENT JOB". The following day Employee "O' reported to the manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again. "O" studied the procedure written down by "Q" and sat and thought about the whole task. He realized company is spending lot of money in getting this task completed. He decided not to cross the river, but sat and designed and implemented a bridge across the river and went back to his manager and said, "You no longer need to assign this task to any one". The manager smiled and said "Outstanding job 'O'. I am very proud of you." What is the difference between A, B, Q & O???????? Many a times in life we get tasks to be done at home, at office, at play…., Most of us end up doing what is expected out of us. Do we feel happy? Most probably yes. We would be often disappointed when the recognition is not meeting our expectation. Let us compare ourselves with "B". Helping some one else the problem often improves our own skills. There is an old proverb (I do not know the author) "learn to teach and teach to learn". From a company point of view "B" has demonstrated much better skills than "A" since one more task for the company is completed. "Q" created knowledge base for the team. More often than not, we do the task assigned to us without checking history. Learning from other's mistake is the best way to improve efficiency. This knowledge creation for the team is of immense help. Re-usability reduces cost there by increases productivity of the team. "Q" demonstrated good "team-player" skills, Now to the outstanding person, "O" made the task irrelevant; he created a Permanent Asset to the team. If you notice B, Q and O all have demonstrated "team performance" over an above individual performance; also they have demonstrated a very invaluable characteristic known as "INITIATIVE". Initiative pays of every where whether at work or at personal life. If you put initiative you will succeed. Initiative is a continual process and it never ends. This is because this year's achievement is next year's task. You cannot use the same success story every year. The story provides an instance of performance, where as measurement needs to be spread across at least 6-12 months. Consequently performance should be consistent and evenly spread. Out-of-Box thinkers are always premium and that is what every one constantly looks out for. Initiative, Out-of-Box thinking and commitment are the stepping stone to success. Initiative should be life long. Think of out of the box.

 

Self Appraisal

"Self Appraisal"

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a
soda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. He
climbed onto the carton so that he could reach the
buttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in seven
digits (phone numbers).

The store-owner observed and listened to the
conversation:

Boy: "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your
lawn?
Woman: (at the other end of the phone line): "I
already have someone to cut my lawn."

Boy: "Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of
the person who cuts your lawn now."
Woman: I'm very satisfied with the person who is
presently cutting my lawn.

Boy: (with more perseverance) : "Lady, I'll even sweep
your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will
have the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach , Florida
."
Woman: No, thank you.

With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the
receiver. The store-owner, who was listening to all
this, walked over to the boy.

Store Owner: "Son... I like your attitude; I like that
positive spirit and would like to offer you a job."
Boy: "No thanks,

Store Owner: But you were really pleading for one.
Boy: No Sir, I was just checking my performance at the
job I already have. I am the one who is working for
that lady, I was talking to!"


This is what we call "Self Appraisal"

Highly Recommended. .... 

Thoughts