Memos From Your Child

 

 

 

 

Memos From Your Child

• Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for ... I'm only testing you.
• Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it .. it makes me feel more secure.
• Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk to me in private.
• Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
• Don't be too upset if I say "I hate you." It isn't that I hate you, but only that I need your attention.
• Don't protect me from consequence. I need to learn the hard way.
• Don't take too much notice of my small ailment. Sometimes they get me the attention I want.
• Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
• Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
• Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always accurate.
• Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
• Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you.
• Don't put me off when I ask you questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
• Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to try to understand.
• Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
• Don't ever think it beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm to you.
• Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please try.
• Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it.
• Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of love. But I don't need to tell you all the time, do I?

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